Will a Groin-Kicking Analogy Help Men Understand?

It's not exactly the same thing... is it?

Twitter user @JuliusGoat has gone viral with a thread that attempts to explain the rage, fear and pain that women experience on a daily basis with an analogy about being kicked in the groin. The analogy explains that it would be a world in which men could be randomly kicked by women, anytime, any place, and just be expected to experience this pain because girls will be girls.

It's an interesting analogy, but will it really help them understand? For starters, there's really no way they'll be able to experience our fear. It's been ingrained in us since birth, since our mothers and the media taught us to not wear loose jewelry, to never jog alone or get a first-floor apartment or leave without checking the back seat or or or... It's such a huge part of who we are that they just don't experience. It's like asking those of us with white privilege to understand what it's like to be black. We can learn and study and attempt to empathize as much as possible but we'll never truly understand what it's like to live in a racist society against us. Ever.

Being kicked also isn't the same level of a violation as sexual assault, even though technically I'd argue that it is still sexual assault since it does effect sex organs. A rape, however, can lead to years of life effected by PTSD, therapy, distrust of sexual partners, and even suicide. My husband, who used to get kicked by and kick his own friends South Park-style, assures me that he got over it each time within the same day. If it were systemetic, with women doing it without impudence, maybe it would be different, but I still don't think it's quite the same.

What do you think of the analogy? Does it help illustrate the issue?

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