Dating Companies Combat Ghosting

As if that's the real problem...

I have friends who've been ghosted. Heck, I'm married and I get ghosted all of the time by other parents who sign up to commit to something in my 4-H or homeschool groups and never tell me they're not going to show or offer an explanation later. It's super frustrating to be around other adults who can't seem to adult, but you move on. It's not fun, but it's not exactly as problematic in the dating world as, say, harassment, violence, coersion, and so forth. But dating companies apparently have had enough complaints about it to take a step against ghosting, and I think it's not the best move.

One app is actually going to keep prompting you to respond to someone, giving you suggested stock replies, if you don't answer a peson. This is problematic for so many reasons. For starters, I already have so many notifications that it makes my head spin and I'm sure many others feel the same way. But some people feel like ghosting is the safest response they can give to a person who feels threatening or unsafe somehow. Even a canned response might make you feel as if you'll set off the person, and many times it's for a reason that wouldn't really fly if you reported it as a violation. Gut feelings don't work as evidence when it comes to site bans, after all.

Ghosting sucks but it's just an indication that you dodged a bullet. Why even focus on it like this? What do you think of the new practice?

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