If we ever needed proof that fragile, toxic masculinity--not normal, positive masculinity but the stuff that white supremacy and capitalism have corrupted--is the worst, the news that domestic abuse increases dramatically over sport team losses is it. In England, when the country's team lost the World Cup, domestic violence surged a whopping 38%. Drawn matches have increased DV by 26%.
This is... mind-boggling. But it also makes sense. Looking at the cause of war throughout history, the causes of colonialism and genocide and mass violent behavior... is it not always related to patriarchal rage? Women are told they can't be leaders because they are "too emotional" while men forget that anger is one of the biggest emotions in existence. And then they take out anger... over a sports match... on actual people. Unbelievable--yet completely believable. It's like toddlers who hit and scream who never grow up. They just get bigger, with more power.
I'm at a loss here. The only thing I can think is that we need to adopt indigenous matriarchal styles of leadership. And I don't want to put everything on the shoulders of indigenous and Black women at all... but it's them who should be in charge. We should all be the workers who help and put in the labor, but we need to follow their lead.
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