I’m speaking in generalities here, but in so many couples, it seems like the women get taxed with the job of buying gifts, even if it’s for the husband’s family. Again, I know that it isn’t the case for everyone. In my own situation and relationship, it doesn’t work that way at all. We both shop and wrap for the gift recipients. But, in so many situations, why do women get stuck buying and wrapping the gifts?

The reason is that they let the guys get away with it. Hear me out. I’m not male bashing at all. If he is the one with the least time on his hands, I can understand the wife or girlfriend helping out. But that often isn’t the case.  When the tables are turned, I’m not sure that most men would be taking responsibility for it.

Men do this because women let them. If you set precedent early that you will do that stuff, he will never do it.  I wouldn’t do it either! I personally love giving gifts but hate buying them. A monkey could wrap gifts better than I can. If I could dump this off on someone else I’d be thrilled. I think that women need to expect that men are just as capable and not just take over this duty.

One factor that makes women buy and wrap the gifts for everyone is that people blame the wife, or the woman, when the gift isn’t right or wrapped perfectly.  This is very outdated thinking but true. But, who cares! Perhaps next year he will actually put some time into shopping, or at least choosing the gifts. If his family tries to judge you for the crappy gifts that runs out to get them on Christmas Eve, let them. They will likely judge you one way or another.