Dear Females,

The complexity of your gender in the area of outward appearance is beyond any understanding. Likewise, I’m sure you would say the same for your male counterparts, but this is not the focus today.

Many may try to assume or speculate conclusions with regard to your nature, but that usually leads to failed attempts of comprehension. This leads one into an area of complete confusion. An area that frustrates every bone in my body.

The area of concern is the obsession for some of you in today’s society with appearance. I am no expert in this area, but I do know that the females in movies, television shows, on the runways, and in magazines don’t correspond very well to reality. They have trainers, dieticians, and nutritionists, which their money gladly buys them. This is fine and dandy. However, they have a tool that many do not have. They have this device on their side that can cover up anything. In one photo shoot they can drop twenty pounds. It’s technologically sound, and very safe. What is it you might ask? It is none other than the airbrush. Yes, an airbrush. A great artistic tool that can make someone with crooked teeth, scars, acne, and a couple extra pounds into a “super-model.” The person loses their identity on the way and becomes a little computer image. That sure is nice.

Another obsession is your fascination with cosmetic surgery. This craze may someday transform people into all looking the same. The appreciation for diversity and difference would take a back seat to Pamela Anderson breasts and a Jennifer Lopez butt. That would be devastating.

The reality shows dealing with this are beyond ridiculous. Who has six months to sit in some high-class hotel while people change everything they think is wrong with you? They’ll give you fake breasts, liposuction, chin implants, a nose job, new teeth, and new clothes, but what do you have left? Your pride left you a long time ago, and your personality may be glossed over with this new false sense of self-worth.

This has also led some of you trying to attain this superficial look into uncharted waters. A few of you have gone into this fad of making sure everything is “low-carb,” “low-fat,” or has “low calories.” Nutritional value has nothing to do with your selection. You’ll buy that stuff just based on what it says, and have no idea what the other ingredients are that you’re putting into your bodies. Also, it’s probably not the best thing to think its ok to drink 12 Michelob Ultras.

Some of these quirks are risky, but it becomes more than an issue when it becomes life-threatening. The push for an appearance then turns into a sickness, which sends the female into a downward spiral in the likes of an eating disorder or complete over-exertion of the body. This is a serious issue that needs to be addressed. In many cases the female in which it is happening to does not understand or believe the seriousness of the situation. They will continue on the trend until someone comes forward and takes action. This takes an incredible amount of courage, but could be life-saving. The health of the person must come before the relationship.

You must start by seeing the reality in your own appearance. You are who you are, and that is how it should be. Drastic actions of change may give a false sense of help in the short-term, but may devastate you in the long-term. Take pride in who you are and what you represent. Self-worth is exactly what it spells out. The worth you give yourself. Don’t let anyone else dictate how you feel about yourself.

There’s my stab at a conclusion. Many attempts of understanding have failed, but I’m trying to not be so frustrated. I hope you see where I’m coming from.

Regards,
Nels Thoreson