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How To Look Smart, According To Woman's Day

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Kari Byron
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Submitted by sarajean on

This WD article should have been titled something else, like "Simple tricks to save time" or something like that; the title is just plain silly.

That said, SAHMs don't have to do any of the above to "be smart," seeing as there are too many types of intelligences in the world to fit people into such a narrow scope. I've always hated that kind of assumption; I grew up with a boyfriend who was in a remedial class while I was in honors and had friends who thought that I was above him as such, which is ridiculous. The man is much smarter than I am about many things, and vice versa.

A SAHM is likely able to balance a budget, cajole a preschooler into eating, prepare meals while taking caloric content and nutrition into consideration at least three times a day (usually plus snacks for most of the household), carpool and manage multiple children, schedule and maintain events and all of her family's activities, records, doctor appointments, shots, etc. help with homework (or teach, period), nurse minor wounds, play pretend with dinosaurs and tea saucers, manage family birthdays and other get-togethers as well as holidays, make sure her children know how to use the potty, brush their teeth, get dressed, etc.---all on top of cleaning. So I'd argue that cleaning isn't 45% of a SAHM's time, maybe more like 25 to 30%. So I think the WD article is also insulting in that it assumes that much of a woman's life is devoted to learning cleaning tricks, too.

All of that said (haha), many SAHMs--all of the ones I know, including myself--also work full or part time and/or attend college on top of all of that. In fact, I don't know any parents who don't work, though I know plenty who work separate shifts or from home so they can care for their children, too. Yes, it's a choice, but it's also very necessary sometimes, especially when a single income just won't cut it... So I think WD needs to add a little bit more substance to their articles (especially if they title them as such), perhaps give their demographic just a teeny bit more credit, and acknowledge that a woman's day today is in 2010, not 1950.

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Submitted by sarajean on

* That is, I don't know any parents of young children who don't work; I do, in fact, know some older parents who are either retired or never worked outside the home while raising their now-grown children. :)

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Submitted by erika on

I used to have the usual kind of prejudicial assumptions about SAHMs until I met my friend Dorothy. She has a PhD in mathematics (!!) and is an all-round awesome person - and a SAHM!

But yeah, Woman's Day is totally stuck in the 50s. And the publishing industry wonders why magazines are failing?!

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Submitted by Anonymous on

um, er being a friend of Dorothy mean something else altogether, but I get the point!

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Submitted by erika on

Honest, I have a friend, and her name is Dorothy! A sad collision between life and euphemism.

Pity the salads which are no longer tossed, but simply jostled lightly to mix the greens!

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Submitted by Cody on

My mom was a SAHM. I credit her efforts to both my brother's and my own success in this world. Thank you mom for not taking a career to seem important and instead giving us a better chance to have our own careers. Thank you for building a family, not being a materialistic hedonist. Every time a feminist has to call me "Doctor", I will think of you.

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Submitted by sarajean on

"Not taking a career to seem important"? What are you, a caveman?

FYI, in today's economy most parents have to work, especially the single ones. As a SAHM who also works full time from home (I also finished college doing both), I happen to know that women are strong enough to do both, by the way. 

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Submitted by Cody on

While the state was busy taking care of your children for you or while they were off taking their cues from peers and role models who never loved them, my mom was teaching me how to read.

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Submitted by sarajean on

I don't think you read my comment. My daughter has stayed at home with me since day one. I work while she is asleep, as well as when her father is home. Guess what? It works. I think you underestimate the strength of the modern family. Funny how you can make such wide assumptions about things you know nothing about.

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