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The Abortion Scam: Why Pro-Choice is Really Anti-Woman- Why the Feminist Argument is Really Sexist.

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Niki Fears's picture

It is hard to find a political debate in which the abortion issue does not get raised. It is easily the most heatedly argued issue in the United States and one in which most people are very passionate about and it has been heralded as the quintessential women's rights issue of the modern age; however, is abortion really a women's rights issue or is it in fact one of the most sexist, anti-woman ideas in history? Typically, the abortion issue centers around the baby in question, and while there are certainly some very valid and important arguments to be made there, I want to challenge you to step away from those arguments, regardless of which side of the fence you are on, and to look at the role between women's rights, societal views of women and abortion.

The first and foremost argument made in support of abortion is that it is a woman's decision- her body, her choice. But what is this really saying? Instead of putting equal responsibility on the men for the sexual behavior and for their offspring, the abortion debate itself is saying to women that you, and you alone are solely responsible for getting knocked up and because it is your fault, it is your problem to deal with. There is nothing liberating or empowering about this argument, in fact it is more condescending and sexist than even the whole “know your place” idea. And then of course, there is the issue of informed consent, if it is really about choice, why are so few women ever informed about the realities and risks of abortion?

Further, it is used as a fail-safe to send the message that abortion is needed to clean up after the mess that irresponsible women create. Instead of saying that women are empowered to make their own decisions regarding sexuality and reproduction prior to conception, we as a society seem to act as if women do not have a choice (since after all they are portrayed as being merely sexual objects) and therefore abortion is necessary to take care of the unwanted consequences afterward. This is an extremely negative and dangerous argument that undermines women's rights and silences our voices. We should, instead, be empowering ourselves to take control of our own sexuality, to wait until we are ready to deal with it and to advocate more choice and accessibility in birth control options that truly put women in charge-- that would be the real choice, not taking it to an extreme after the fact, even if it risks our health and well being and future conception possibilities. But to do this, would be to threaten the current male driven society.

Our current society, particularly in the West, is driven by the idea that women are sexual objects to satisfy men on demand. It has long been held that men control all aspects of sexuality in this society and with the rate of pornography, so called "gentleman's clubs", and high rates of sexual assaults and other crimes against women, we can see that clearly—it is all geared to cater to the image of men being in control. To empower women to take charge, and to actually be the ones to control their own sexuality would threaten this and thus, it plays better into the hands of sexism to push abortion as a “clean up” alternative instead of giving us the power to control conception in the first place.

What about the so called “hard cases” of rape? This is often used at the forefront of the debate as the reason why abortion must be legal, but in reality it is merely trying to play upon the fears and concerns of the “weaker sex” and to almost make an excuse for rape by saying “well you can always have an abortion” as if the trauma of such a horrific violation is just going to go away and you are expected to just go on and forget about it because at least you can have an abortion if you get pregnant; how could you be more insulting? And they push this sexist attempt to placate women while hiding the fact that only 1-2% of all abortions are due to rape or incest, a little fact that they tend to leave out.

Perhaps the most diabolical part of it all is that those behind the great abortion scam use women to further their own sexist agenda and convince women that they need these misogynistic ideas, that they are even for their own good and they point to anyone in the pro-life camp as being a threat against women. While I certainly will agree that a good portion of the right is made up of those on the sexist bandwagon, that is not true of all those who are Pro-Life. Even the democrats and the liberal left are full of pro-life supporters as are many avid and vocal feminists.

But apart of the arguments from a feminist or anti-feminist stance as the case may be, what about the actual physical issues involved? Is abortion a safe, even important medical option for women as the pro-abortion activists claim or is it more harmful to women than they are willing to admit? To answer this question take a look at the issue of informed consent and the ways in which abortion presents a physical and psychological assault on women in the first part of this look at why pro-choice is anti-woman.

When we sift through all of the information and separate the facts from the propaganda and look at the real underlying issues and hidden agendas, we are left with one inescapable conclusion- Abortion is an all out assault on women. This may be why we are seeing many Pro-Life Feminist groups springing up around the world to take a stand against this war that has been raged against women, and to reclaim our own pride and control over our lives by saying no to abortion and realizing that Pro-Choice is really just Anti-Woman.

 

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Lady K's picture
Submitted by Lady K on

This argument is nice and fluffy in theory but not in practice - kind of like communism, so I'm going to go by what you say step by step. You seem to be confusing "pro-choice" with "mandatory abortions," when the two are definitely not synonymous. I also don't know where you got the idea that so few women are informed of the realities and risks of abortion, because as far as I can tell, most clinics have strict policies regarding that this information be available these days - 34 states require mandatory counseling before the procedure is performed, and 25 have a waiting period on top of that, and even without the abortion-specific mandates, all clinics must abide by "informed consent" lest they be sued and run out of business. It is no easy game to run an abortion clinic these days.

 

The "her body, her choice" argument stems from this single fact - men simply CANNOT be responsible until there is a way for them to carry a pregnancy. The woman is the owner of her uterus. In an ideal world, a man could pluck an otherwise unwanted pregnancy from his ex-lover's womb and nurture it on his own, but unfortunately, there is no way for the man to be so "responsible" without forcing another woman to be pregnant. While I realize that surrogacy can be arranged (and hey, seems perfectly legal to me, I advocate that decision!), this is still putting the physical responsibility on women as human incubators, and what kind of message does that send?

 

NOBODY is touting abortion as birth control. Nobody rightly affiliated with the pro-choice movement suggests that abortion be a substitute for informed and responsible birth control choices - at many Planned Parenthoods, a well-known provider of abortion procedures, you can walk in and get free or very low-cost condoms, diaphragms, and birth control pills, and I am sure any Pro-Choice advocate in their right mind would prefer that people come to Planned Parenthood BEFORE the pregnancy instead of after. And while I don't agree with everything NARAL has done, they're seen as the bastion of Pro-Choice America, and they do major work in advocating not only abortion rights, but access to birth control and (more dire, in my opinion) sex education. Pro Choice has NEVER been about "all abortion, all the time." In fact, feel free to be as Pro-Life as you want once we get a method of birth control that's practical and 100% effective. Until then, however, abortion is very necessary, and I'll come back to why.

 

I agree with not placating the patriarchy - that was a likewise unfortunate by-product of the sexual revolution. However, all one needs to do is be fighting for the right reasons, and namely, with a well-informed combination of forces; that is, sex ed, birth control, and if it must come that far, abortion. I think it's just as, if not more, insulting to demand a woman carry an unwanted pregnancy to term, or, god forbid, suggest that "well, you can always give it up for adoption," which, I might add, is the ONLY option for an unwanted pregnancy per what you're suggesting. At least if one is Pro-Choice women have, like, holy crap, a CHOICE. Which is why I prefer, in terms of legislative beliefs, to refer to "Pro-Life" camp as "Anti-Choice," because limiting someone's options is effectively being anti-choice.

 

Doing away with abortion entirely because sometimes it can go wrong is like saying hospitals shouldn't be legal because sometimes malpractices happen - it's a convoluted, upside-down way of looking at things. It seems time better spent to work toward ending the sexist notions that cause abuse in the first place, as such abuse of abortion you refer to is not a CAUSE of misogyny, but a symptom. Cure the disease, don't just give humanity an aspirin (an aspirin which happens to cause women to suffer, I might add). Just as a piece of anecdotal evidence, by the way, against this horrific treatment of women during abortion to which you refer (which I present because I think your presentation is NOT the norm) there are NEARLY 50 TIMES as many results on Google for "Abortion saved my life" as there are for "Abortion ruined my life."

 

Finally, I'd like to caution - I am "pro-life" in my personal ideaology. I think every effort should be made so that abortion doesn't have to happen. In legislation, however, I must be Pro-Choice: abortion will always happen whether it is legal or not. Being pro-choice at it's core means you'd rather women have access to safe, sanitary abortions than seedy, back-alley coathanger appointments (go ahead and search "when abortion was illegal" on Google, because it was for over a hundred years in America's history). If you value the health and safety of women, until there is a 100% effective method of birth control (and no, abstinence doesn't count), abortion must be legal.

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Submitted by Anonymous on

I love the article! Well done!

To those of you who say there are not any Pro-life advocates on the left:

You would be amazed to discover that most Democratic politicians are members of the Democrats For Life of America (DFLA) and strongly advocate against ending life in any unnatural way including abortion, the death penalty, and euthanasia. Not every Democrat is a liberal extremist . A true definition of a women's right's activist won't make a pregnancy a problem for women to deal with, cope with, or take care of alone. If you look in recent news articles, you will find that many states are either outlawing abortion (to a certain degree or all together) or are submitting bills to determine what is considered an illegal abortion and may imprison those who have been reckless in regards to their pregnancies. Many women do treat abortion like a birth control method. I've known quite a few who have and what they have gone through afterwards has been traumatic, especially when they find out that their chances of having a healthy child in the future decreases after each one. The "rape" thing isn't an excuse either. In fact, I admit that at one time I did consider that I could probably go through with it if I had been raped. I was raped once and it changed my entire perspective. I realized that going through such a thing (if I had been pregnant, which thankfully I wasn't) would've been like reliving that rape over and over and over and over again. It's vile and I can't imagine ever having one. So many women out there are unable to have their own children. If you are truly pro-women you would NOT be advocating for pro-choice in legislature.

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Submitted by Lady K on

Your experience is not the universal one. You're not the one who gets to decide what's best for a woman who's just been raped, the woman who's just been raped is. And everyone is different.

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Submitted by sarajean on

Completely agreed with Lady K; it seems that we've grown rather blase with having legal abortions during the past few decades and that younger women have either not been made aware of or have forgotten the massive amounts of death and destruction caused by illegal abortions.

And no state has abortion absolutely illegal; that would be unconstitutional. However, lack of access and restrictions have caused many women to partake in other life-threatening activities--similar to those prior to Roe v. Wade.

Ultimately, making these generalized decisions for women across America is one of the most anti-feminist moves a person can make. And the argument that politicians who are anti-choice (who are, yes, from both sides and who are largely not women) exist really has nothing to do with it; people, not politicians, should be entrusted with their own decisions.

I heartily agree that women need better healthcare, childcare, and overall services, and that children are in desperate need of better services once born. (I have to wonder; if this is the focus of the anti-choice movement, why aren't they further lobbying for these efforts instead? Or for saving the lives of the women who die daily in childbirth?) But outlawing abortion isn't going to do any of these; it's just going to create more death.

davidrayevans's picture

Lady K you said....."there are NEARLY 50 TIMES as many results on Google for "Abortion saved my life" ....

Well that may be true. No one ever said that murdering someone that stands in your way of the having the kind of life you want would not be beneficial. Maybe half the people who murder children for personal reasons are happy they did. How they feel after murdering someone still does not make it the right thing to do.

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Submitted by lisala on

Tell you what, David, when YOU get pregnant you can decide what to do with your own body. If men want to have a say in what women do with our bodies, then the time to do it is before having sex.

Abortion is not an ideal solution. Making it illegal and difficult is not going to stop it happening, it didn't in the past, and it doesn't now. Countries like Ireland simply have lots of unadopted babies or women who have money "take the boat," and go to England or France.

Essentially, making abortion illegal is going to hurt poor women. If abortion is legal and obtainable, along with affordable anti conception, including the "morning after pill" then there's a chance for women to have preventive care, and find an adoptive parent, and get anti-conception help and education.

But I'm heartily sick of men telling women what to do with our bodies.

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When men and women bring their bodies together, sometimes it creates a third body. In this scenario both man and woman have already decided to make it a together decision. Let every woman do what the heck she wants with her body but not murder a third innocent body

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Submitted by lisala on

1. It's very very common for women not to have any choice in "bringing their bodies together."

2. Until men become pregnant, again, it's not their decision, and no, they don't get a vote.

3. I don't see right to life people offering to provide pre-natal care, or educating young people about contraception, or offering to adopt babies with Tay-Sachs, or heroin addiction, or genetic damage from alcohol poisoning or crack use.

4. Abortion must remain safe, legal, and affordable, or the consequences will be much much worse. We know what happens when it isn't safe, legal, and affordable.

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While we could agree or debate on any of the issues you raise non of them justify killing another human being. I could think of a lot of reasons that someone might want to kill someone and none of the ones you give make me think that its justifiable to kill and innocent third party.
1. If someone was forced to have sex without consent and you feel you must kill someone then the obvious choice is the one that forced the sex. 2. Your arguments about it happening in my body remind me of the slave owners saying as long as I own them I can do what I want, or the thug that says my home is my castle and I can do what I want to whomever as long as they are in my castle. In the case of the child they had no choice but to be where they are - not a justifiable reason to kill them. Again if you are bent on killing someone the one that got you pregnant would seem to be at least more deserving than the innocent child (not that I recommending it but you seem bent on having the right to kill someone if you want to)
3. Just because people are not willing to help take care of people does not mean we should start killing people who need help, and killing children because no one will help take care of them seems to be an extreme solution to me.
4. Keeping abortion legal already has about as worse consequences as can be for the child. It is warped logic to want to kill children just because adults may do desperate, unsafe things to themselves. The children are not the cause nor is killing them a logical or honorable choice.

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Submitted by lisala on

to adopt the child, or pay for prenatal care? But you are perfectly willing to potentially condemn a child who is unwanted to years of abuse and neglect? You're ok with crack-addicted babies? It's not your responsibility, after all.

Look. No one "wants" to have an abortion. But making them illegal isn't going to stop them; it hasn't ever stopped them.

And I don't see anyone taking care of the thousands of unwanted children we already have.

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Dear Lisala I am willing and have, my family has taken in children, not just the cute the babies either, we also give substantially each month to help cover the costs of many children born without the benefit of both parents. But with that being said, a person can still be against people murdering other humans even in they do not have the means or the understadning to help every potential murder victim. Should we legalize all murder, take aways all laws that prohibit murder since murder happens everyday anyway. Economics is a major reason many murders happen, should we legalize all murder if you are unwilling to give your time and money to alleviate the socioeconomic pressures that lead to murders that happen in every city every day. Legalizing murder does not solve the uncaring attitude. Your logic of not enough people care so lets kill them anyway is very twisted.

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Submitted by lisala on

But you're just as happy as can be to doom poor women and fetuses by back-street abortions that more often than not don't work, but irreparable damage the mother and the child.

That's just fine--because that's exactly what happens when legal, affordable medically sound abortions are not available to poor women. We've seen this in U.S. history, and in countries like Ireland.

Legal abortions mean that there's a chance for an intervention.

And I still don't think men should have a say at all in this.

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Are you just as happy to doom annually over a million of innocent babies to death.

At least most of these very unfortunate women in back alleys have some say in what is happening to them. Most are not forced into the back alley they have chosen to be there. I am very sad for them and I will I can to help BUT I will not choose to kill babies in some twisted hope that it will stop ADULTS from making bad decisions. You be happy killing BABIES, I will not kill the innocent for the mistakes of adults, I will go for keeping them alive and doing all I can to help ADULTS from making tragic decisions.

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Submitted by lisala on

Yeah, you're really not following the logic here. Let me break it down for you:

1. Woman goes to legal medically safe abortion clinic. Woman is presented with alternatives to abortion, as well as counselling. Woman is told to see the counselor then return. Alternatives include social support and financial support for prenatal care, and assistance with adoption, as well as education regarding anti conception.

2. Woman seeks illegal abortion, or, even more likely, abandons the baby.

Making abortions illegal doesn't do anything to stop them happening. Again, go look at what's happening in countries like Ireland where it's not legal.

No one "wants" to have abortions. The solution is not to make them illegal, it's to make them unnecessary.

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You assume that murdering the child is a necessity.
Its a premeditated decision. (except in medical emergencies) No murder is a necessity. And making murder illegal has never stopped all murders, but we are not going to make all murder legal because of that.

Most abortions (90% plus by last stats) are not medical emergency or because of rape. People kill for a lot of reasons, but just because they do does not make it necessary or right. Nor does the broken logic - people will do it anyway so lets make it legal.

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Submitted by lisala on

I'm not going to respond to you anymore. You're not actually engaging, you're not actually interested in any option besides treating women as receptacles, and you're certainly not actually thinking about the consequences of prohibiting legal, safe, early abortions.

If you really cared about women, or children, you'd spend more effort on preventing unwanted children from ever being conceived.

Making abortion illegal isn't going to stop the number of abortions. It's just going to stop women from being educated, or being offered alternatives.

And men will still continue being irresponsible, and attempting to control women's bodies, rather than their own.

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I do care and actually do spend effort and money helping all I can with women and children to prevent unwanted pregnancies. I think education is great and alternatives (beyond murdering children is great). I do think men should be held responsible for what they do with their bodies and believe in strong child support laws.
On the contrary you seem to be bent on ignoring that killing for convenience is not a solution and that the stats bear out that killing children is not a necessity. But I understand that you must ignore science facts and logic if you are going to sleep well at night.

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Submitted by Sarah on

Lady K... You understand you can't make a case with the numbers of people who have written "Abortion saved my life" on the Internet vs. those who haven't... people who are dead are not online to write about their experience.  If only you could hear their collective silence.

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Submitted by Anonymous on

Thank you for your well written article.

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Submitted by Anonymous on

Sorry but it appears your fears have overwhelmed your reason.

False #1: "Typically, the abortion issue centers around the baby in question" -
- Amongst people desiring to empower women the issue centers around a woman and her life, not the unfortunate baby in question.
- Amongst the socially conscious the issue centers around the distribution of rapidly decreasing resources in an increasingly overcrowded world.
- Amongst responsible partners the issue centers around their ability to support their children at a planned appropriate time of life.
- Amongst the scientifically inclined the issue centers around preserving good genetics.
- Amongst those with an overwhelming faith in a higher power, religious fundamentalists, you are correct that the issue centers around the unborn.

False #2: "Instead of putting equal responsibility on the men ... the abortion debate [about the right to an abortion] itself is saying to women that you, and you alone are solely responsible ... that abortion is needed to clean up after the mess that irresponsible women create" -
- Where did you get that idea? The opposite is true: Abortion is needed by responsible women to clean up after irresponsible males.
- A women's option to an abortion actually increases the likelihood that a male will remain involved so that a pregnant partner will keep their child.

False #3: "why are so few women ever informed about the realities and risks of abortion" -
- Where did you get this idea? Nearly all are informed about the realities and risks of abortion.
- The opposite is true: Few are informed about the realities and risks of having children that are not wanted or fathered by bad males.

False #4: "Instead of saying that women are empowered ... regarding sexuality and reproduction prior to conception ... threaten the current male driven society ... high rates of sexual assaults ... geared to cater to the image of men being in control. To empower women to take charge ... it plays better into the hands of sexism to push abortion ... instead of giving us the power to control conception in the first place." -
- This confuses three separate issues.
- Abortion rights do not decrease access to contraception.
- Abortion rights do not increase sexual assaults on women (to the contrary, abortion the children of physically abusive males will decrease such genes in the gene pool).
- Non-secular male driven society and non-secular women leaders are threatened by both contraception and abortion.
- Secular male driven society is threatened by abortion rights and well organized women.

False #5: "we as a society seem to act as if women do not have a choice [about having sex] ... that undermines women's rights" -
- Having sex is a need for both sexes, always was and always will be.
- Use of alcohol, drugs and the rhythm method by poor and young women increases the opportunity for unwanted pregnancy.
- The young and poor are gullible and susceptible to intimidation.
- Removing abortion rights and public support of abortion is discrimination against women and poor women in particular by society.

False #6: "the so called 'hard cases' of rape ... reason why abortion must be legal, but in reality it is merely trying to play upon the fears ... to placate women ... only x%" -
- Think about how the "only x%" who must suffer for a lifetime must feel. You would feel different if it was you.
- Think about it: the child of a rapist that is kept should be neutered.

False #7: "the great abortion scam ... pro-life camp as being a threat against women ... a good portion of 'the right' is made up of those on the sexist bandwagon" -
- It appears you are being used by the right wing sexist (your term) and the religious right wing to subvert the debate over the right to a safe legal affordable abortion .
- Forcing women to have children is insensitive and is part of an authoritarian culture. If you don't want to have an abortion then don't.

False #8: "Is abortion a safe, ... or is it more harmful to women than they are willing to admit? ... abortion presents a physical and psychological assault on women ... pro-choice is anti-woman" -
- An abortion is a very safe procedure.
- The psychological assault is by anti-choice people who are frequently religious extremists and more than half male.
- Pro-choice people are frequently female and not religious fundamentalists.

False #9: "When we sift through all of the ... we are left with one inescapable conclusion- Abortion is an all out assault on women."
- Who is this "we"? It certainly leaves out a majority of women.
- Stopping women from controlling their own lives is really just Anti-Woman.

If you don't think women are sufficiently responsible to be able to exercise control over their bodies, and you think you should make decisions for them, it is probably because of your religious or right wing sexist upbringing.

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Submitted by Anonymous on

Very Well said and straight to the point.  We will never solve our problems until we honor life itself!

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